My little brother is getting married this weekend, and I can’t seem to wrap my head around the fact that he’s all grown up.
Thomas is the baby of the family. There’s almost an 11-year age difference between us. In my mind, he’s still that little boy running around the living room in a homemade Batman costume, the kid I read Harry Potter books to at bed time, and who squealed with delight if I made pizza sandwiches for lunch.
He’s the boy who collected Pokémon cards and could beat me at Mario Kart every time. How is he old enough to be married? When did this happen?
His fiancé, Charlotte, is a wonderful woman. I am truly lucky to be gaining such a warm-hearted, kind and generous sister-in-law. She has an infectious laugh, and a fantastic sense of humor — a prerequisite in my family. I know she’ll fit in well.
Being the youngest in her family, I’m sure her parents and older sisters are wondering the same thing I am: Where did the time go?
“Time flies” is such a cliché. But I am discovering more and more that there is a reason it’s a cliché: because it’s true. Blink, and it’s over — just like that. So fast. I suspect that as I get older, I’ll become more and more aware of just how fast everything passes.
I’m only just beginning to recognize how easily it can sneak up you.
It didn’t use to feel like that.
As a kid, you think you have all the time in the world. I remember when I was 10 and was grounded for two whole weeks for “running away.” (“Running away” in my case consisted of taking to the woods with my best friend, a packed lunch, a Girl Scout handbook, and a very naive, ill conceived notion of living off the land.)
In any case, that two weeks of punishment seemed like an eternity. What I wouldn’t give for that perception of time now.
At best, and if we’re very lucky, we get roughly a century on this planet. One hundred years to grow up, try to find yourself, try to find love, and try to find your purpose in this life. It’s a race against time because none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow.
I want to wish Thomas and Char a long and happy life together. It is my hope that through each other, they find everything that they’ve been looking for.